Rather, he would hand her his head while he remained in the mosque and she stayed in her apartment.
His iʿtikāf only kept him from leaving except for whatever needs required it—food, drink, relieving himself, and the like.
For iʿtikāf means remaining in the mosque, and going out conflicts with that; hence ʿĀʾishah related about herself that, when she was in retreat, she did not enter the house except for a necessity.
So keen was she to return quickly that, if a sick person happened to be along her route, she would not stop to comfort him; she would merely ask about his condition as she passed, on her way to or back from the mosque.
Points derived from the hadith
- Iʿtikāf does not prevent one from combing, washing the hair, or any other form of cleanliness.
- There is no harm in a menstruating woman touching or handling things.
- Iʿtikāf is valid only when observed in a mosque.
- The retreatant should not leave the mosque except for a necessity such as food or drink.
- Extending part of the body outside the mosque is not regarded as leaving it.
- A menstruating woman should not remain in the mosque lest she soil it.
- Whoever goes out to attend to a need must return promptly and not occupy himself with anything beyond the need that allowed him to leave.
- Touching a woman without sexual desire does not invalidate iʿtikāf.
Hadith 3
ʿUmar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, in the Days of Ignorance I vowed to spend a night’—in another report: ‘a day’—‘in iʿtikāf in the Sacred Mosque.’ He replied, ‘Fulfil your vow.’” Some transmitters omit the words “day” and “night.”
Overall meaning
Before embracing Islam, ʿUmar ibn al-Khattab had vowed to observe iʿtikāf for a day and a night in the Sacred Mosque. He asked the Prophet ﷺ about the ruling on that vow. Since a person is required to fulfil his vows whether he made them in disbelief or in Islam, the Prophet ﷺ commanded him to carry it out. Although making such vows is disliked, fulfilling them is nevertheless obligatory.
Points derived from the hadith
- Fulfilling a vow is obligatory, even if it was made while one was still a disbeliever.