—for the Prophet ﷺ once gave a kunya to a little girl when he dressed her in a fine cloak, saying to her, “How splendid it is, O Umm Khālid, how splendid it is, O Umm Khālid!” Muslims today—especially the non-Arabs among them—have largely abandoned this Arab-Islamic sunnah. Seldom will you find anyone adopting a kunya, even when he has a number of children; how much rarer when he has none at all. In its stead they have introduced newly minted honorifics such as Efendi, Bey, Pasha, then Sayyid, Ustadh, and the like—titles that, in whole or in part, fall under the self-commendation proscribed in many hadiths. Let this be noted.
- The merit of feeding people. This was one of the beautiful customs by which the Arabs excelled above other nations, and Islam came to affirm it most emphatically, as this noble hadith indicates. Europe, on the other hand, is unfamiliar with it and takes no delight in it—except for those of its peoples who have embraced Islam, such as the Albanians and the like. Regrettably, our own folk have started to imitate Europe in its lifestyle, whether that accords with Islam or contradicts it; they have ceased to care about hospitality and attach no weight to it, save on formal occasions. That is not what we seek. Rather, whenever any Muslim friend visits us, we are duty-bound to open our homes to him and offer him our hospitality; this is his right over us for three days, as the authentic hadiths state.
Among the strange things a Muslim hears in this age is the vaunting of the Arabic tongue by people who do not accord it its true worth. For among many of its purely verbal champions we seldom find anyone who embodies the Arab virtues of generosity, protective jealousy, dignity, and the other noble traits that are the building blocks of nations. May Allah have mercy on him who said:
Nations endure so long as their morals endure;
When morals perish, nations perish as well.
Even finer than that is the saying of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ: