The point, however, is that even if it were assumed that Abū Bakr caused her distress, he did not do so for any personal purpose, but rather to obey Allah and His Messenger and to ensure that a right reached the one entitled to it. Alī—may Allah be pleased with him—intended to take another wife while married to her, so he had a personal interest in the matter that distressed her, unlike Abū Bakr. It follows that Abū Bakr was less deserving of blame than Alī for causing her distress. His sole intention was to obey Allah and His Messenger in a matter from which he stood to gain nothing personally, unlike Alī, who did have (1) a personal interest in what upset her. Abū Bakr was of the same kind as one who migrated for Allah and His Messenger; this is not like one whose purpose was a woman he wished to marry (2).
The Prophet—peace and blessings be upon him—is distressed by whatever distresses Fātima, so long as no command from Allah Most High stands in conflict with it. When Allah Most High commands something, he carries it out, even if members of his family or others are distressed by it. While obeying Allah, he is distressed by anything that conflicts with (3) obedience to Allah and His Messenger.
This unrestricted formulation is like his saying:
“Whoever obeys me has obeyed Allah, and whoever obeys my appointed commander has obeyed me. Whoever disobeys me has disobeyed Allah, and whoever disobeys my appointed commander has disobeyed me.” (4), 16/39–40, 17/107, 18/95; al-Musnad (al-Halabī ed.), 2/467, 471, 511.
He then clarified this through his words—peace and blessings be upon him—