The counsel given at the graveside, then, must be confined to what has come in the Sunnah alone, lest graveyards be turned into pulpits. Such admonitions should be gentle and subdued: the speaker sits, his demeanor reflecting sorrow and contemplation—never swagger or bravado, as though he were rallying an army with threats of attack morning and evening. Yet the bounty of Allah is granted to whomever He wills. Some people take certain texts in senses that were never intended, and Allah guides whom He wills to a straight path.