and He loves gentleness in every matter.” Agreed upon.

3/634 – On her authority—may Allah be pleased with her—that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness, and He gives for gentleness what He does not give for harshness, nor for anything else.” Reported by Muslim.

4/635 – On her authority—may Allah be pleased with her—that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Gentleness is not found in a thing except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from a thing except that it disgraces it.” Reported by Muslim.

[Explanation]
The author—may Allah have mercy on him—lists here, among the ḥadiths, what the Prophet ﷺ said to al-Ashajj of ʿAbd al-Qays: “You possess two qualities that Allah loves: forbearance and deliberation.”

Forbearance means that when a person is provoked, wronged, or assaulted, he remains composed. He is not like a beast of burden, indifferent to what is done to him; rather, he is affected, yet he restrains himself and does not rush to punish. Only when punishment would be better than pardon does he proceed to punish.

Deliberation is taking matters slowly and avoiding haste. How often a person perishes or slips because of rushing into things—whether in transmitting news, in passing judgment on what he has heard, or in anything else.

Some people, for example, snatch up reports the moment they hear them and immediately spread them