for the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said: “There is no obedience to any created being when it entails disobedience to the Creator.” Hence, it is unlawful for this husband to stop his wife from maintaining ties with her relatives, so long as she does so within the limits set by Islamic law and in a manner that serves a sound interest. On the contrary, he should assist and encourage her, for in that lies abundant good for both of them. As for the report mentioned by the questioner, I have never come across it and do not know its authenticity.

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Prolonging the Engagement Period

Question: I became engaged to my maternal cousin—praise be to Allah—and the engagement was completed. A year and three months have passed, yet the marriage contract has still not been concluded. She is waiting for me, but I have not yet been able to raise the funds needed to go ahead with the marriage. Am I sinful for this delay? If so, what should I do?

Answer: You bear no sin for this postponement so long as it is due to your financial hardship and your busy efforts to gather the wedding expenses; that is a valid excuse. Nevertheless, you should ask their pardon, explain the reality of your circumstances, and tell them that you need additional time to collect the necessary means. If you inform them of that and they agree, then there is no problem and no blame upon you.

What we recommend is that a prospective husband not be burdened with wedding costs beyond his capacity. Marriage, the dowry, and all related expenses should be kept as easy and light as possible.