However, if the condolence visit is limited to simply comforting the living, soothing their feelings, and praying that Allah forgive and have mercy on the deceased, then there is no objection to it—especially when the bereaved are his relatives.

Indeed, travelling to see them, to offer condolences, and to support them yields much benefit, and they may well be in need of his presence. There is therefore nothing wrong with doing so, for it is an act of obedience and a recognised good deed, not something blameworthy.

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Bequests

Question: My wife’s mother vowed that, should Allah take her life, I would assume responsibility for four sheep that she owned during her lifetime and slaughter from them an udhiyah (Eid al-Adha sacrificial animal) every year, continuing so long as the flock continued to reproduce. Her appointed time came, and she passed away four years ago. After her death, while I was away from the town, her husband took those sheep. I have therefore been unable to carry out any part of what she entrusted to me. Does sin fall upon me or upon her for this? What should I do now? Please guide us—may Allah bless you.

Answer: This is a waṣiyyah (bequest), not a nadhr (vow). A bequest is only valid for one-third of the estate or less. Concerning the husband’s actions and your inability to execute what she requested: if you have proof of this bequest—either a written document or the testimony of two witnesses confirming that the bequest was issued by the deceased while she was alive—then you should present this evidence to the judge in your locality. He will examine the matter and issue whatever ruling is required, Allah willing. And Allah is the One who grants success.