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The second matter: to invoke goodness and blessing for the bridegroom and his wife. Several ḥadīths speak to this:
- Jābir ibn ʿAbd-Allāh (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:
“My father passed away and left behind seven—or nine—daughters, so I married a previously married woman. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ asked me, ‘Have you married, Jābir?’ I replied, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘A virgin or a matron?’ I answered, ‘A matron.’ He then said, ‘Why not a young virgin whom you could play with and she could play with you, whom you could laugh with and she could laugh with you?’ I told him, ‘ʿAbd-Allāh died leaving [nine or seven] daughters, and I did not want to bring them someone like themselves, so I married a woman who would look after them and put their affairs in order.’ He thereupon said, ‘May Allah bless you,’ or he said a similar word of goodness.1
Another route from Anas is transmitted by Abu Nuaym in Akhbar Asbahan, 2:280, through Abd al-Hakim b. Ziyad, who reports it from him with a marfuʿ attribution and adds at the end: “Allahumma, place Your prayers upon the family of Saʿd b. ʿUbadah.” The chain is weak: it contains an unnamed narrator; ʿIsa b. Shuʿayb, who is discarded; and I found no biographical information on Abd al-Hakim b. Ziyad.
(1) Al-Bukhari narrates the hadith at 9:423 (his wording is cited), and Muslim at 4:176 (with the additional phrase). A supporting report from Anas was already noted under issue no. 16.
الأمر الثاني: الدعاء له ولزوجه بالخير والبركة وفيه أحاديث:
الأول: عن جابر بن عبد الله ﵄ قال:
هلك أبي وترك سبع بنات أو تسع بنات فتزوجت امرأة ثيبا فقال لي رسول الله ﷺ: "تزوجت يا جابر؟ " فقلت: نعم فقال: "أبكرا أم ثيبا" قلت: بل ثيبا قال: "فهلا جارية تلاعبها وتلاعبك وتضاحكها وتضاحكك؟ " فقلت له: إن عبد الله هلك وترك [تسع أو سبع] بنات وإني كرهت أن أجيئهن بمثلهن فتزوجت امرأة تقوم عليهن وتصلحهن فقال:
"بارك الله لك" أو قال لي خيرا١.
وله طريق آخر عن أنس رواه أبو نعيم في أخبار أصبهان ٢/٢٨٠ عن عبد الحكيم بن زياد عنه به مرفوعا وزاد في آخره:
"اللهم اجعل صلواتك على آل سعد بن عبادة".
وسنده ضعيف فيه من لا يعرف وعيسى بن شعيب وهو متروك وعبد الحكيم بن زياد لم أعرفه.
١ رواه البخاري ٩/٤٢٣ والسياق له ومسلم ٤/١٧٦ والزيادة له وفي الباب عن أنس وقد مضى في المسألة ١٦.