two ways:

If he confides his suffering to a healer versed in spiritual medicine and in what harms or benefits the soul, so that he may treat his soul with the remedy of faith, he is like someone seeking a religious ruling, and this is good. If he confides in someone who helps him do what is forbidden, this is unlawful. If he confides in someone else for the relief that complaining brings—just as an afflicted person tells others of his misfortune—without intending to learn what would benefit him or to seek help in his affliction, this diminishes his patience. Yet he does not thereby incur sin unless something forbidden accompanies it, as when an afflicted person expresses resentment.

And “the second” is to conceal it and not discuss it with people, because doing so publicizes evil and indecency. When souls hear such things, they are stirred, feel desire and longing, and become enslaved by passion. Whenever a person sees, hears of, or imagines someone doing what he himself desires, this prompts him to do likewise and imitate that person. When women see male animals mounting females, they feel drawn to sexual intimacy and intercourse. When a man hears of someone engaging in such acts with beardless youths and women, sees it, or imagines it, this prompts him to do the same. When food is mentioned to someone, he craves it and feels drawn to it. If something he desires is described to him—clothing, a woman, a dwelling, or anything else—his soul inclines towards it. A person far from his homeland longs for it whenever he is reminded of it. Whenever a person pictures anything he loves, there is a stirring of