the authentic hadith:

“If a woman who wails does not repent before her death, she will wear a shirt of scabies and a robe of pitch on the Day of Resurrection.”

Thus, no one bears the burden of the person who wails.

As for the deceased being tormented, the Prophet did not say that the deceased is “punished” because of his family’s weeping over him. Rather, he said that he is “tormented.” Torment is broader than punishment: torment is pain, and not everyone who suffers pain because of something is being punished for it. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said:

“Travel is a kind of torment; it deprives you of your food and drink.”

He thus called travel torment, although it is not punishment for a sin. A person is tormented by unpleasant things he perceives, such as terrifying sounds, foul odors, and ugly sights. He suffers from hearing the first, smelling the second, and seeing the third, although none of these is a deed of his for which he is being punished. How, then, can it be denied that the deceased may be tormented by wailing, even though the wailing is not his own deed for which he is being punished?

A person in his grave is tormented by what some people say, and suffers from seeing some of them and hearing their speech. For this reason, the judge Abū Ya‘lā ruled that when sins are committed in the presence of the dead, the dead suffer because of them, as transmitted reports indicate. Thus, their being tormented