It was narrated by al-Bukhārī (5/167, 306, 6/59, 7/347, 8/367), Muslim (8/113), Ibn Mājah (1/607, 2/59), and Ahmad (6/117, 194–195, 197).
The second route is narrated by al-Qāsim from her with the same report, except that he said:
“The lot fell to Aisha and Hafsa [so they went out with him],” instead of: “whichever one...”
It was narrated by al-Bukhārī (9/255), Muslim (7/138), and Ahmad (6/114).
The third route is narrated by Amra bint Abd al-Rahmān from her, with wording similar to Urwa’s.
It was narrated by Ahmad (6/269) with a good chain of transmission.
232 – (He, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “I instructed you only to abstain from intercourse with them when they menstruate; I did not instruct you to turn them out of their homes, as the non-Arabs do.” When the Jews heard this, they said: “This man intends to leave nothing of our ways without opposing us in it.” See al-Rāzī’s Tafsīr, vol. 6, p. 66.) p. 189
I have not found it with this wording in any of the hadith collections available to me. Something close to it was mentioned by al-Suyūtī in al-Durr al-Manthūr (1/258), citing a report narrated by Ibn Abī Hātim from Ibn Abbās:
“A Quranic revelation came concerning menstruating women, while the Muslims would turn them out of their homes as the non-Arabs did. They therefore sought a ruling from the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, concerning this. Allah then revealed: (They ask you about menstruation...). The believers assumed that separation meant what they had previously practiced—turning them out of their homes—until the end of the verse was recited. The believers then understood what separation meant when Allah said: (Do not