Through the same chain Ibn ʿAbbās related that Dubāʿah bint ʿĀmir ibn Qurt had once been married to ʿAbd Allāh ibn Judʿān, who divorced her. She was then taken in marriage by Hishām ibn al-Mughīrah and bore him a son named Salamah. Dubāʿah was a striking, large-framed woman whose abundant hair fell over much of her body. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, asked Salamah for her hand. Salamah replied, “Shall I first consult her?” and went to seek her permission. She exclaimed, “My son, do you seek permission regarding the Messenger of Allah?” Salamah returned without saying anything further—apparently thinking his mother had grown too old—and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, let the matter drop.
Ibn ʿAbbās also said: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, proposed to Ṣafiyyah bint Bashāmah ibn Naḍlah al-ʿAnbarī. She had been taken captive, so the Prophet offered her a choice, saying, “If you wish, choose me; and if you wish, choose your husband.” She answered, “My husband.” He therefore set her free, and the tribe of Banū Tamīm cursed her for that decision.
Muḥammad ibn Saʿd reported that al-Wāqidī told us—Mūsā ibn Muḥammad ibn Ibrāhīm al-Taymī narrating from his father—that Umm Sharik, a woman of Banū ʿĀmir ibn Luʾayy, offered herself to the Messenger of Allah, but he did not accept her, and she remained unmarried until she died.
Muḥammad ibn Saʿd further said: Wakiʿ narrated from Shurayk, from Jābir, from al-Ḥakam, from ʿAlī ibn al-Ḥusayn, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, married Umm Sharik al-Dawsiyyah. Al-Wāqidī remarked, “What we hold to be reliable is that she was from Daws, a branch of al-Azd.” Muḥammad ibn Saʿd added, “Her name was Ghaziyyah bint Jābir ibn Ḥakīm.”
Al-Layth ibn Saʿd transmitted—from Hāshim ibn ʿUrwah, from his father—that people used to relate: “Umm Sharik had offered herself to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and she was a righteous woman.”
Among the women he proposed to but with whom he did not conclude a marriage was Jamrah bint al-Ḥārith ibn ʿAwf ibn Abī Ḥārithah al-Muzanī. He said