Thus, there are two kinds of love. One is the paradise of this world, the joy of the soul (1), the pleasure of the heart, and the spirit’s bliss, nourishment, and remedy—indeed, its very life and deepest delight. This is loving Allah alone with one’s whole heart, with all one’s powers of inclination, will, and love drawn to Him. The other is torment for the spirit, sorrow for the soul, imprisonment for the heart, and constriction of the breast. It causes pain, misery, and hardship: it is loving anything other than Him, glorified is He.
Among the causes of an open heart is remembering Him continually, in every circumstance and every place. Remembrance has a remarkable effect in opening the heart and filling it with bliss, while heedlessness has a remarkable effect in constricting, imprisoning, and tormenting it.
Another cause is kindness to others: benefiting them with whatever wealth and influence one can offer, through physical effort, and through every form of kindness. The generous benefactor has the most open heart, the most contented soul, and the greatest bliss of heart. The miser who shows no kindness has the most constricted heart, the most miserable life, and the greatest sorrow and anxiety. The Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) (2) likened the miser and the giver of charity (3) to two men wearing coats (4) of iron. Whenever the giver intends (5) to give charity, his coat expands and stretches until it covers his fingertips (6) and effaces his footprints. Whenever the miser intends to give charity, every ring remains fixed in place, and his coat does not expand for him.