Manhaj al-Salikin wa Tawdih al-Fiqh fi al-Din - Abd al-Rahman al-Sadi’ - (195)

508—The order of priority among those entitled to give a free woman in marriage is:

1- Her father and paternal forebears, however remote.

2- Then her son and his descendants, however remote.

3- Then her nearest agnatic relative, followed by the next nearest.

509—In a hadith recorded by both al-Bukhari and Muslim: “A previously married woman must not be married off until she has been consulted, nor a virgin until her permission has been sought.” They asked, “O Messenger of Allah, how is her permission expressed?” He replied, “By her remaining silent.”1

510—The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Make marriages public.” Narrated by Ahmad.2

The means of making a marriage public include the testimony of two upright witnesses, publicizing it and making it openly known, beating the frame drum for the occasion, and similar practices.

511—A woman’s guardian may not marry her to someone who is not a suitable match for her, for it is not the case that

(1) Narrated by al-Bukhārī, 9/191; and Muslim, no. 1419. (2) Narrated by Ahmad, 4/5; al-Tirmidhī, no. 1089; Ibn Hibbān, *Mawārid*, no. 128; and al-Nasā'ī, 6/127. Al-Tabarānī graded it authentic. The shaykh stated that holding a wedding feast upon conclusion of the marriage contract is recommended, according to the husband’s financial circumstances, whether he is affluent or of limited means. Accepting an invitation to it is obligatory, whereas accepting other invitations is sunnah. People should observe moderation and avoid extravagance in wedding feasts, gatherings, and the like. See *Nūr al-Basā'ir*, p. 48.

٥٠٨- وَأَوْلَى اَلنَّاسِ بِتَزْوِيجِ اَلْحُرَّةِ: ١- أَبُوهَا وَإِنْ عَلَا. ٢- ثُمَّ اِبْنُهَا وَإِنْ نَزَلَ. ٣- ثُمَّ اَلْأَقْرَبُ فَالْأَقْرَبُ مِنْ عَصَبَاتِهَا. ٥٠٩- وَفِي اَلْحَدِيثِ اَلْمُتَّفَقِ عَلَيْهِ: "لَا تُنْكَحُ الأَيِّمُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْمَر، وَلا تُنْكَحُ البِّكْرُ حَتَّى تُسْتَأْذَنَ"، قَالُوا: يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ، وَكَيْفَ إذنها؟ قال: "أَنْ تَسْكُتَ" ١. ٥١٠- وَقَالَ اَلنَّبِيُّ ﷺ: "أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ" رواه أحمد٢. ومن إعلانه: شهادة عدلين، وإشهاره وإظهاره، والضرب عليه بالدف، ونحوه. ٥١١- وَلَيْسَ لِوَلِيِّ اَلْمَرْأَةِ تَزْوِيجُهَا بِغَيْرِ كفءٍ لَهَا، فليس

١ أخرجه البخاري "١٩١/٩"، ومسلم "١٤١٩". ٢ أخرجه أحمد "٥/٤"، والترمذي "١٠٨٩"، وابن حبان "موارد ١٢٨"، والنسائي "١٢٧/٦"، وصححه الطبراني. قال الشيخ: والوليمة على عقد الزواج مستحبة، بحسب حال الزوج يسارا وإعسارا، والإجابة إليها واجبة، وإلى باقي الدعوات سنة، وعلى الناس في الولائم والدعوات ونحوها سلوك طريق الاقتصاد، واجتناب الإسراف. "نور البصائر، ص: ٤٨".