Manhaj al-Salikin wa Tawdih al-Fiqh fi al-Din - Abd al-Rahman al-Sadi’ - (192)

Manhaj al-Salikin wa Tawdih al-Fiqh fi al-DinAbd al-Rahman al-Sadi’

to marry her.

500—A man may not make a marriage proposal to a woman who has already received a proposal from his fellow Muslim until the latter permits him to do so or abandons his proposal.1

501—It is never permissible to make an explicit marriage proposal to a woman observing her waiting period.

502—An indirect proposal may be made to a woman observing a waiting period following an irrevocable separation, whether through death or otherwise, for Allah Most High says: “There is no blame upon you for indirectly expressing interest in proposing to women” [al-Baqarah: 235].

503—An indirect proposal may be worded as follows: “I am certainly interested in a woman like you,” or, “Do not let me miss out on you,”2 and similar expressions.

504—At the marriage contract, it is recommended to deliver the sermon of Ibn Masʿūd. He said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us the declaration of faith for matters of need: All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, seek His help,3 and ask His forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils within ourselves and from our wicked deeds. Whoever Allah guides, none can lead astray; and whoever He leads astray, none can guide. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah (alone, without any partner),4 and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant

(1) If, however, the first suitor’s position is unknown, or if he is asked for permission but remains silent, another man may not propose to her in such circumstances, as the Shaykh established in *al-Mukhtārāt*, p. 103. (2) In manuscript “B”: “Do not pass me by.” In manuscript “T”: “Do not let me miss out on you.” (3) Manuscript “T” adds: “and seek His guidance.” I have not found this phrase in any version of the hadith. (4) The phrase “alone, without any partner” is absent from manuscripts “B” and “T.”

إلى نكاحها. ٥٠٠- وَلَا يَحِلُّ لِلرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَخْطُبَ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ اَلْمُسْلِمِ، حَتَّى يَأْذَنَ أَوْ يَتْرُكَ١. ٥٠١- وَلَا يَجُوزُ اَلتَّصْرِيحُ بِخِطْبَة اَلْمُعْتَدَّةِ مُطْلَقًا. ٥٠٢- وَيَجُوزُ اَلتَّعْرِيضُ فِي خِطْبَةِ اَلْبَائِنِ بِمَوْتٍ أَوْ غَيْرِهُ؛ لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى: ﴿وَلا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَاءِ﴾ [اَلْبَقَرَةِ: ٢٣٥] . ٥٠٣- وَصِفَةُ اَلتَّعْرِيضِ، أَنْ يَقُولَ: إِنِّي فِي مِثْلِكَ لَرَاغِبٌ، أَوْ لَا تُفَوِّتِينِي٢ نَفْسَكِ، وَنَحْوَهَا. ٥٠٤- وَيَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَخْطُبَ فِي عَقْدِ اَلنِّكَاحِ بِخُطْبَةِ اِبْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ: عَلَّمَنَا رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ﷺ اَلتَّشَهُّدَ فِي اَلْحَاجَةِ: إِنَّ اَلْحَمْدَ لِلَّهِ، نَحْمَدُهُ، وَنَسْتَعِينُهُ٣، وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ، وَنَعُوذُ بِاَللَّهِ مِنْ شُرُورِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَسَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا، مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اَللَّهُ فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ، ومن يضلل فلا هادي له، وأشهد أن لا إله إلاالله، (وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ) ٤، وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عبده

١ أما إذا جهل الحال، أو استأذنه فسكت، فإنه لا يجوز له الخطبة في هذه الحال كما قرره الشيخ في "المختارات، ص: ١٠٣". ٢ في "ب": "لا تفوتني". وفي "ط": "لا تفوتي نفسك علي". ٣ في "ط" زيادة: "ونستهديه"، ولم أجدها في شيء من روايات الحديث. ٤ ليست في: "ب، ط".