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203—Whenever he finished burying the deceased, he would stand by the grave and say: “Ask forgiveness for your brother and ask Allah to keep him steadfast, for he is now being questioned.” Abu Dāwūd related it, and al-Hākim declared it authentic1.
204—It is recommended to offer condolences to one who has been bereaved.
205—The Prophet—peace and blessings be upon him—wept over the deceased and said: “This is mercy”2.
206—Yet he cursed the woman who wails3 and the woman who listens to her4.
207—He also said: “Visit the graves, for they remind you of the Hereafter.” Muslim related it5.
208—Whoever visits them should say: “Peace be upon you, inhabitants of the abode of the believers. Allah willing, we shall join you, (and may
= as well as plastering them, burning incense over them, sitting on them, and writing on them are all prohibited, because the warning concerning these practices indicates prohibition. *Al-Mukhtārāt al-Jaliyya*, p. 54.
(1) Recorded by Abū Dāwūd (3221), al-Hākim (1/370), and al-Bayhaqī (4/56). Al-Nawawī graded it sound in *al-Adhkār* (147).
(2) Recorded by al-Bukhārī (3/173).
(3) *Niyāha* means weeping over the deceased with loud cries and wailing.
(4) Recorded by Abū Dāwūd (3128) from Abū Sa‘īd. Its chain includes ‘Atiyya al-‘Awfī, his son, and his grandson, all of whom are weak narrators. It is also transmitted through other chains, none of which is sound. *Irwā’ al-Ghalīl* (769).
(5) Recorded by Muslim (977).
٢٠٣- وكان إذا فرغ من دفن الميت وقف عليه، وقال: "استغفروا لأخيكم، واسألوا له التثبيت، فإنه الآن يسأل" رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلْحَاكِمُ١.
٢٠٤- وَيُسْتَحَبُّ تَعْزِيَةُ اَلْمُصَابِ بِالْمَيِّتِ.
٢٠٥- وَبَكَى اَلنَّبِيُّ ﷺ عَلَى اَلْمَيِّتِ، وَقَالَ: "إِنَّهَا رَحْمَةٌ" ٢.
٢٠٦- مَعَ أَنَّهُ لَعَنَ اَلنَّائِحَةَ٣ وَالْمُسْتَمِعَةَ٤.
٢٠٧- وَقَالَ: "زُورُوا اَلْقُبُورَ، فإنها تذكر بالآخرة" رواه مسلم٥.
٢٠٨- وَيَنْبَغِي لِمَنْ زَارَهَا أَنْ يَقُولَ: "اَلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ أَهْلَ دَارِ قَوْمٍ مُؤْمِنِينَ، وَإِنَّا إِنْ شاء الله بكم لاحقون، (ويرحم
= وتجصيصها وتبخيرها والجلوس والكتابة عليها، كله محرم؛ لأن الوعيد الوارد في ذلك لا يقصر عن درجة التحريم. "المختارات الجلية، ص: ٥٤".
١ أخرجه أبو داود "٣٢٢١"، والحاكم "٣٧٠/١"، والبيهقي "٥٦/٤"، وحسنه النووي في الأذكار "١٤٧".
٢ رواه البخاري "١٧٣/٣".
٣ النياحة: البكاء على الميت بصياح وعويل.
٤ رواه أبو داود "٣١٢٨" عن أبي سعيد، وفيه عطية العوفي وابنه وحفيده، وكلهم ضعفاء، من طرق أخرى لا يصح شيء منها. "إرواء الغليل "٧٦٩".
٥ أخرجه مسلم "٩٧٧".