Dalīl al-Ṭālib - Marʿi al-Karmi - (255)

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A wife is not obliged to serve her husband by kneading dough, baking, cooking, or similar tasks, although it is preferable1 for her to do whatever customarily falls to her.

He may require her to remove any impurity from her body, to bathe after menstruation, post-partum bleeding, or major ritual impurity, and to trim whatever is repugnant of nails or hair.

It is unlawful for her to leave the house without his permission, even to attend her father’s funeral; however, she may go out to attend to her own needs when he has not undertaken them for her.

He has no right to stop her from speaking with her parents, nor to bar them from visiting her, unless harm is feared from their presence.

She is not obliged to obey her parents; rather, obedience to her husband has priority.

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At her request, he must spend the night with a free wife one night out of every four, and with a slave-woman one night out of every seven. He is required to have intercourse at least once every third of a year—about four months—if he is able2; should he refuse and she demand it, the judge will separate them.

If he travels for more than half a year on a journey that is neither obligatory nor undertaken to obtain livelihood he truly needs

(1) The pronoun “laha” is absent from manuscripts A and N. Al-Insaaf, 8/362, concludes that the correct ruling should be determined by local custom. (2) Shaykh al-Islam held that this duty is obligatory only to the extent of the wife’s need, provided it does not weaken the husband’s body or hinder his livelihood, without fixing any specific interval; see Hashiyat al-Rawd, 6/437.

فصل وليس عليها خدمة زوجها في عجن وخبز وطبخ ونحوه لكن الأولى لها١ فعل ما جرت به العادة. وله أن يلزمها بغسل نجاسة عليها وبالغسل من الحيض والنفاس والجنابة وبأخذ ما يعاف من ظفر وشعر. ويحرم عليها الخروج بلا إذنه ولو لموت أبيها لكن لها أن تخرج لقضاء حوائجها حيث لم يقم بها. ولا يملك منعها من كلام أبويها ولا منعهما من زيارتها ما لم يخف منهما الضرر. ولا يلزمها طاعة أبويها بل طاعة زوجها أحق. فصل ويلزمه أن يبيت عند الحرة بطلبها ليلة من أربع والأمة ليلة من سبع وأن يطأ في كل ثلث سنة مرة إن قدر٢ فإن أبى فرق الحاكم بينهما إن طلبت. وإن سافر فوق نصف سنة في غير أمر واجب أو طلب رزق يحتاج.

١ "لها" لا توجد في "أ". ولا في "ن". قال في الإنصاف "٨/٣٦٢": الصواب أن يرجع في ذلك إلى عرف البلد. ٢ واختار شيخ الإسلام وجوبه بقدر كفايتها ما لم ينهك بدنه أو يشغله عن معيشة من غير تقدير مدة. حاشية الروض "٦/٤٣٧".