Al-Sharḥ al-Mumtiʿ - Ibn al-'Uthaymin - (12/416)

Al-Sharḥ al-MumtiʿIbn al-'Uthaymin

a child is a provision and favor from Allah, Most High, as Allah says: “So now have relations with them and seek that which Allah has decreed for you.” [al-Baqarah 2:187] If he does not mention Allah’s name, Satan may harm his child, and he may share with the man in enjoyment of his wife. Allah, Most High, said to Satan: “Rally against them whatever cavalry and infantry you can; share with them in their wealth and children.” [al-Isra’ 17:64] Some scholars said that sharing in children means that, if a man does not mention Allah’s name before intercourse, Satan may share with him in enjoyment of his wife.

If someone asks: Suppose he approaches his wife while naked—should he recite this supplication? Yes, he should, because the Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, stated it without restriction. Moreover, there is nothing wrong with a man approaching his wife while naked, and with her likewise being naked. However, the sunnah is for them to cover themselves with a single sheet, so that their private parts are not exposed and they do not resemble two donkeys. (1)

“It is disliked to speak excessively, to withdraw before she has attained satisfaction, to have intercourse in anyone’s presence, and to speak about it. It is prohibited for him to house his two wives in one dwelling without their consent, though he may prevent her from leaving his home.”

His statement, “It is disliked to speak excessively,” means during sexual intercourse. When a man is having intercourse with his wife, he should not speak excessively. He may speak, but he should not speak much. In al-Rawd there is a hadith, though it is weak: “Do not speak excessively when having intercourse with women, for it causes muteness and stammering.” (2) Muteness means being unable to speak, while stammering is the repetition of the letter f when pronouncing it. There is no doubt that excessive speech in this state is unbecoming, since the man has uncovered his private parts, as has the woman. But brief speech that intensifies desire is unobjectionable; indeed, it may be desirable.

(1) Narrated by Ibn Majah in al-Nikah (Marriage), chapter: “Concealing Oneself During Intercourse” (1921), on the authority of Utbah ibn Abd al-Sulami. See also: al-Irwa (2009). (2) In al-Irwa (2008), he attributed it to Ibn Asakir and said: “Munkar (rejected).”

الولد رزق من الله تعالى وفضل، كما قال الله ﷿: ﴿فَالآنَ بَاشِرُوهُنَّ وَابْتَغُوا مَا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ﴾ [البقرة: ١٨٧]، فإن لم يسمِ فإن الشيطان ربما يضر ولده، وربما يشارك الإنسان في التمتع بالزوجة، قال الله تعالى للشيطان: ﴿وَأَجْلِبْ عَلَيْهِمْ بِخَيْلِكَ وَرَجِلِكَ وَشَارِكْهُمْ فِي الأَمْوَالِ وَالأَوْلَادِ﴾ [الإسراء: ٦٤]، قال بعض العلماء: المشاركة في الأولاد أن الرجل إذا لم يسم عند الجماع فقد يشاركه الشيطان في التمتع بزوجته. فإن قال قائل: أرأيتم لو أتى أهله وهو عارٍ، أيقول هذا الذكر؟ نعم، يقول؛ لأن الرسول ﷺ أطلق، ولأنه لا حرج أن يأتي الرجل أهله عارياً وهي عارية أيضاً، لكن السنة أن يلتحفا بلحاف واحد حتى لا تبرز سوءاتهما، ويكونا شبيهين بالحمارين (١). وَيُكْرَهُ كَثْرَةُ الكَلَامِ، وَالنَّزْعُ قَبْلَ فَرَاغِهَا، وَالوَطْءُ بِمَرْأَى أَحَدٍ، وَالتَّحَدُّثُ بِهِ، وَيَحْرُمُ جَمْعُ زَوْجَتَيْهِ فِي مَسْكَنٍ وَاحِدٍ بِغَيْرِ رِضَاهُمَا، وَلَهُ مَنْعُهَا مِنَ الخُرُوجِ مِنْ مَنْزِلِهِ، قوله: «ويكره كثرة الكلام» يعني عند الوطء والجماع، فإذا كان الإنسان يجامع زوجته فلا ينبغي أن يكثر الكلام، فيتكلم، لكن لا يكثر، وفي الروض حديث لكنه ضعيف: «لا تكثروا الكلام عند مجامعة النساء فمنه يكون الخرس والفأفأة (٢)»، الخرس معناه أن لا يتكلم، والفأفأة أن يكرر الفاء عند نطقه بها، ولا شك أن كثرة الكلام في هذه الحال ما تنبغي؛ لأن الإنسان كاشفٌ فرجه وكذلك المرأة، لكن الكلام اليسير الذي يزيد في ثوران الشهوة لا بأس به، وقد يكون من الأمور المطلوبة.

(١) أخرجه ابن ماجه في النكاح/ باب التستر عند الجماع (١٩٢١) عن عتبة بن عبدٍ السلمي ﵁، وانظر: الإرواء (٢٠٠٩). (٢) عزاه في الإرواء (٢٠٠٨) لابن عساكر، وقال: منكر.