and trimming her hair is easy. She must therefore go back and complete her umrah, after which a new marriage contract may be concluded for her.
These are serious matters. Because this woman was too embarrassed to speak the truth, she was punished in this way. Yet Allah is not ashamed of the truth. It is obligatory that neither a man nor a woman be ashamed of the truth. When a man asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, saying, “O Messenger of Allah, I have intercourse but do not ejaculate; must I perform ghusl?” he replied, “I do that, I and this one”—gesturing towards Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her—“and I perform ghusl.” (1) He was not embarrassed, because it was a matter of truth.
Likewise, when Ibn Abi Salamah asked him about a fasting person kissing, while Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her, was present with him, he said, “Ask her,” meaning his mother. The Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, would kiss her while he was fasting. He said, “O Messenger of Allah, Allah has forgiven you your past and future sins.” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, replied, “By Allah, I hope that I am the most fearful of Allah among you and the most mindful of Him.” (2)
And when some people laughed at passing wind—meaning wind that has a sound—the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Why does one of you laugh at what he himself does?” (3) If you did it alone by yourself, would you laugh? Yet people do laugh, because it is bad manners for a person to make the sound of passing wind audible